When will Sonny come home?
I’ve been asked that question A LOT over the past three and a half years, and I’ve always been quick to gently remind folks that only the Lord knows the answer. He is the author of this story-within-a-story, and He’s the only one who knows its beginning and end.
Some people shake their heads and follow up my answer with, “I could never do it. I could never wait that long“, but I always assure them that if Everything inside them was saying adopt, and if Everything inside them felt like their child was on another continent- they could ABSOLUTELY do it and they could ABSOLUTELY wait however-long, because obedience to God doesn’t have a thing what we can do. It’s about what God can do through us when we are obedient. And I promise you, if He called you to it, He’ll get you through it.
This is what obedience looked like for me in this situation:
Yes, I hear You.
Yes, I will adopt.
Yes, I will follow You to ______. (Even though I am afraid of…A LOT.)
Yes, I will wait ______ years for the child You chose for me. (Enter literally ANY number there.)
And because You took the time to speak directly to me, and because I was created to follow You, and because if I take a big, muscle-stretchin’ step backward and *really* look at what’s going on here I will see that this season of “suffering” is actually ONE HUGE BLESSING, I will continue to say yes. You have my unequipped, undeserving, but TOTALLY unwavering word.
Proverbs 3:5-6 says “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight”.
Our own understanding might say, “I could never do it. I could never wait that long“, but I’m telling you, for me, and in this season, trust and obedience will forever look like a straight path to my son. 🙂
So while I can’t tell you anything about what the rest of our timeline will play out like, I can tell you a little bit about a timeframe here today.
The phase we just entered is called Legalizations, and from what I understand, it means that our recently-released, 72-page Adoption Decree will go to three different offices to be authenticated. In other words, someone in three different offices will authenticate the stamps and signatures on our Decree to make sure everything and everyone who signed & stamped it is legit. The first Legalization takes place in Parquet Court, the second legalization takes place at the Ministry of Justice, and the third legalization takes place at the Ministry of Foreign Affairs.
We know from watching other families’ timelines that the Legalizations phase generally takes between 5 and 12 weeks. Obviously we’re hoping our timeline is on the shorter end of that range, but we won’t start to get antsy until we’re approaching the 12 week mark. 😉
After Legalizations, we enter what our agency calls the Passport and Visa phase. This phase generally (and pretty consistently) takes 8-12 weeks. There are many steps in this phase, all of which lead to Steevenson’s passport being printed and visa being issued. He will also be required to have a medical exam by a US Embassy-approved doctor during this phase, but apparently that part usually doesn’t take very long to coordinate and complete.
Once all of that is done, we will get to bring our Sonny boy home. So, if I do the math, our current timeframe is anywhere between 3 months and 6 months, which means he will likely come home sometime between the beginning of June and the beginning of September.
That might sound like a long time to some folks, but considering the number of months already under our belt (38!), it sure feels lightning fast to me!
Which reminds me, now that we’ve got final adoption expenses and a homecoming trip to plan for, we’ve got to really start pinching pennies and raising funds. I had some requests for “I am a child of God” t-shirts for kiddos, so I am making them available for the next couple of days over at BlogThreads.com. It will be a pre-order sale, and I’ll deactivate the site Tuesday night at 8pm (CST) so that I can send the order to the printshop on Wednesday morning. It’ll take a couple of weeks to get them back from the printer, so if you place an order, you can look for it to pop up in your mailbox in mid-April.
I also listed some of our previous Blog Threads designs in the shop too, so if you’re interested in ordering one of these shirts they’re over in the shop til tomorrow night too!
Thanks in advance if you decide to place an order!! As always, we appreciate every sale and will send 20% of the total proceeds to another adoptive family to help them with some of their adoptive expenses too. This month, our fundraiser family is the Cruz family and I know they will be so appreciative of your love and support too! I met Julie (the mama) on Facebook when we discovered we are both using the same adoptive agency and adopting children from the same country.
We’re in almost the exact same spot as far as our adoption journeys go too! Here’s a snippet about how the Cruz family were led to their daughter:
When we finally gave into God’s calling to adopt, we also felt a strong tug to adopt a deaf child. When we told our social worker she very kindly shared that they don’t often have deaf children come to the homes they work with. Later, we found out they had never had a deaf child come into any of the homes they work with. BUT, God put all the right people in the right places and connected our agency with another agency who DID have a deaf child in their creche. She is a beautiful 7-year-old who is always smiling despite never having any language. We look forward to opening up a new world for her by teaching her sign language. God truly worked everything out to match us with this precious little one!
I’m so grateful to be able to share that with you (with Julie’s permission!), and again, thank you, thank you if you decide to purchase a shirt. The Lord uses every single one to make our paths straight!
And speaking of adopting a child from Haiti, for obvious reasons I loooove sharing info about the Haitian adoption process with folks who are also Called to it. If that’s you, I’ve also outlined our entire journey (thus far) on my Adoption Timeline page if you’d like to see how our looks. But remember, what it *really* looks like is my son. 🙂