“A real good love story isn’t free of brokenness. But it’s full of healing and redemption.”
#SoulScripts
Someone recently commented (on my last adoption-related post) that they would be interested in hearing how Kevin and I worked to “maintain a healthy and loving relationship during such stressful and emotional times”. She said, “I know you relied heavily on your faith, but wondering what you would tell yourself before your Sonny came home now that you didn’t know then? I think that advice would be helpful for all couples going through a challenging season”.
It made me stop and think.
And think.
And then I started to write.
And write.
I’m not finished yet, but I look forward to publishing it soon. Thanks for the motivation, Vicki! We certainly don’t have it all figured out, but we do have a challenging 14 months under our belts, and I hope that at least some parts of it will resonate and be helpful. Imperfect couples who refuse to give up on each other, unite! 😀
Layla
We are having a very very challenging time as a family ..been married 29 years … multiple serious diagnosis within 16months and really struggling with all that goes with that..so praying through it ..talking non stop through it..periods of quiet reflection..a feeling (at times ) of feeling a litttttttttle abandoned and a couple of support groups ..trying to breathe ..did I mention praying ..allowing ourselves to embrace the brokenness while it seems everyone is wholly unaffected and unscathed around us..
Hi, Gail!
I will be praying for you all too! Thank you for sharing. Our family too is going through a very tough time. Some of the hardest things about this is how it seems everyone else’s lives are perfect and how alone you can feel. Trying to take one day at a time and totally depend on God. Pray healing and blessings for you and your husband!
Thank you for being so kind, Cindy. It’s comments (and hearts) like yours that make the internet go round. I will add you and your family to the prayer I lift up now, too. XO
Gail, my heart goes out to you and your fam. Sounds like y’all are going through a LOT, and I know how isolated that must feel. Thank you for sharing a bit about your struggles here today. Lifting up a prayer for you now. XO
I love the last line of this! Every hard season, with kids or my husband, I remember this: “love is giving someone a safe place to grow”. We’re foster parents and so we have kiddos who need a safe place to grow and our marriage has frequently had to adapt quickly to changes, also needing a safe place. That’s the kind of love I strive to give.
While we haven’t adopted or fostered, I can say that for 42 years my husband and I have had our “moments” (who doesn’t?) but the bottom line for us is never giving up on each other. We married for better or worse, and all the rest. We are very separate, but equal human beings who manage to come together to hold it together! You just can’t run when the going gets tough, you push through and work it out. I imagine it’s the same no matter how your family came about. I look forward to seeing what you found out about yourselves in 14 months of development!
I went back to savour some of your awesomeness…I re-read A Storm, A Song, & A Son. And you made me smile again. You are so fabulous!
Then I re-read Six Word Love Stories -at bedtime…I should have listened to your warning…after more smiling and sending you good vibes and mental hugs, hope you felt them sweetie!- I too started scribbling (when I should have been in bed)… 🙂
* Prayer. Loooooooooong wait. Stevenson came home.
* Marriage After Adoption; More love, smiles.
* Great couple. Baby wishes. Hearts Grew.
* Music man, designer gal. Blessed! Stevenson.
* In-Love. Prayed. God blessed them.
*14 months. Hard work. Surrender. Divine….
I hope maybe one or more of those will make you smile.
Happy October!!!
Maryjane
So beautiful and wise. So honest and resilient. Such an inspiration. Thank you.