Adoption Update – A Better Line

It was right around noon on Monday when our caseworker’s call came in. I was out and about, running errands in the rain at the time.

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Is Kevin with you?” Meredith delicately said, “this is going to be a kind of a hard call“.

Kevin wasn’t with me.


My brain immediately raced to the worst scenario.

Meredith went on to (very gently) explain a possible change in our adoption process, and in an instant, my windshield matched my cheeks. :-(

It wasn’t the worst case scenario that had flashed into my mind, but bottom line: we’re *probably* not going to Haiti any time soon.

On Monday, I couldn’t focus on anything but the bottom line.

I really believed we’d be booking our 2-week socialization trip in the next couple of weeks, and I felt so sure we’d be snuggling with him at the orphanage soon.

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But God has really redirected my focus over the last couple of days, and I’ve got a whole new perspective today. It wasn’t about the bottom line, it was about a (potentially) better line (in the long-run).

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So today, I feel encouraged to know that he’s in very Happy hands in the meantime…

…and, with a click of that play button, I feel re-encouraged to focus on the Wonder…not the wait. :-)

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  1. Wynne says

    oh friend, that’s hard. but yay for perspective changes. the wait between knowing and going is SO hard. i’ll be praying for you and believing that the time is SOON!

  2. Robbie Wagner says

    That happened to us in our adoption journey. Russia totally closed it’s doors to adoption after our dossier was sent over. The beauty of it all is that our precious son was not even in the region our dossier was originally sent to and had it not been for the shut down, we would have been matched with another child. God orchestrated it all magnificantly, although it didn’t seem so at the time. He knows what’s best and will bring it to fruition at the right time.

  3. Audra says

    I just wanted to share a scripture that carried me through our own difficult time before we could hold our children. “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.'” – 2 Corin. 12:9. I felt like the Lord gave me this scripture at a crossroads when I could have turned down the path of asking the Lord “why?”, “why, us?”, “why not now?”. Instead I clung to this scripture and chose to hold onto His grace. It is so good to know our God cares and He is in control. I will be praying for this season of waiting to be filled with His grace and peace.

  4. says

    i am so excited that you are adopting from haiti. i am more excited for the little guy who will be joining your family. i am in love with the little children of haiti and i am happy, happy everytime i hear that one of them will have a home soon. a few years ago i sat on the opposite side of a swimming pool at a small but clean hotel in port-au-prince and watched adoptive parents play with their soon-to-be-adopted-son. he was tinier than most 2 year olds here in the states but precious and laughing and happy. he had only known this couple a day or two but i think he knew, somehow, that life was about to get a lot better. he smiled and cooed and even ran to them for “safety” when we approached to talk to the parents. it was sweet and so satisfying to know that even one precious haitian baby was going to have a better life. i’m so excited for all 3 of you and cannot wait to see pictures of your little guy safe and sound and well fed in your home. i don’t know if you have been to haiti before but it is quite an experience and you will fall head over heels for all of the children there – they are so sweet. you will want all of them – don’t say i didn’t warn you :)

  5. Paige says

    We had a similar phone call when we were in the final weeks before adopting my son from Russia in March 1997. We were in the “any day now” part of the wait to meet him, when we got a call saying we would have to wait 6 months. Talk about devasting! We’d been through so many disappointments already but this one was the worst! I cried for days.
    Eventually things were worked through and in April we brought him home. I truly felt God’s presence in the room when they handed him to me. All of the bitter disappointment of 13 years we spent trying to become parents suddenly made perfect sense to me. It was so I could be right there in that orphanage at that very moment.
    God has a plan for you. Hang in there!

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